If we sit down again, is that a relapse?

So, I smoked again. This was a few weeks ago, and partly why I haven't written anything in a while. My significant other left town for a few days to participate in a friend's wedding in another state (Nebraska - where you can see your dog running away for a week). So I picked up a few bowls-worth of the good stuff. It was nice. Nice and familiar.
Here's the thing - or at least A thing - I didn't go on some sort of bender or binge. Just toked up a few times after work, got nice and relaxed for what seemed the first time in a long time, and got some little projects done around the house.
So I have some mixed emotions regarding my falling off whatever conveyance it is that relates to marijuana use/avoidance. On the one hand, nertz - I didn't have the willpower to completely quit for much more than a month. On the other hand, I FELT like I didn't go crazy or overdo it, and I got a lot of little chores done that I had been putting off. So now what?
I dunno - it was nice, and I do still miss it now and then. But I'm to the point now where I'm not crabby or short-tempered (any more than usual), and I'm not craving the stuff. So I guess I'm about where I want to be. Maybe not where my spouse wants me to be, but I don't think we'll ever see eye-to-eye on the smoking issue.
Since then, though, I haven't gone back for more, nor have I felt any pressing need to. There are times when it would REALLY be nice, but they are becoming fewer and farther between. Which I imagine means that my posts here will follow the same pattern. It seems easiest to "maintain gains" when I'm not thinking about it, and writing about it sort of necessitates thinking about it, ergo maybe I shouldn't write about it so much. Eh, whatever.
To focus on the negative side of using (and I'm reaching here) I suppose it's not too cool to be running to a bud buddy as soon as my wife leaves town. Mainly that concerns me in that it might set a "wife leaving = good thing" association in my head, although I really don't see that as much of an issue. We're pretty "shwoopy" all the time, and we miss each other terribly when apart for a day or so, and our phone calls to each other at such times reflect that.
To focus on the positive side of not using, it has been nice to not worry if I look stoned when I go somewhere in the public sphere, and a recent trip to see friends in NYC reminded me that it's also nice to not worry about keeping myself in check after a day or two without. Traveling by plane sort of puts a damper on a weed habit, and I used to have to remind myself that "it's just that you haven't smoked for a while, that's why you're getting pissed that no one can pick a restaurant" and so on.
So I guess I'm in the "maintenance" stage, still. My overall attitude toward the smokables is that I could take or leave it. And while I would probably prefer to take it, it's not worth the trouble (more accurately, "potential for trouble").
To sum up, yeah, I would still like to smoke, but all else being equal - "meh" is what I say to it.